Get Past a Limiting Belief With The ABCD Technique
Most of us have a great lie we tell ourselves…otherwise known as a “limiting belief.” A “limiting belief” can keep us from achieving a goal or aspiration and can unknowingly hold us back from reaching our true potential. Often times these limiting beliefs are held in the subconscious mind. I would like to teach a technique that you can use any time you find yourself having a limiting belief. It is called the ABCD technique and this exercise can help you to have a deeper awareness of your limiting belief and therefore the power to change it. I always like to say “awareness is the catalyst to change.”
To teach you this technique, I am going to use an example of a limiting belief… one that I often times hear from my female clients. If you would like to do this with me now, please take out a pen and a piece of paper. If you can please write in cursive. Cursive has a more fluid relationship with the subconscious mind.
First for A., write down the big lie you tell yourself…otherwise known as the limiting belief.
A. For our , example, “It’s going to be. “I am too old to find love.”
B stands for the behavior that comes from A. Now write down what action you end up taking because of that belief.
For our example, it could be: I am anxious to put my age on dating sites. So I don’t. I am anxious and nervous on dates because I keep thinking they won’t like me. or maybe it’s I don’t even follow up with guys when they message me on the dating site because a part of me feels like nobody is going to like me.
C stands for the conclusion statement…what the “big lie” is truly saying about how you feel about yourself. In this example, that could be:
C. I am unlovable or maybe even, I don’t value myself so I don’t think anybody else is going to value me. It might even be a combination of both.
D stands for the rational and logical argument or dialogue you are going to have with yourself in rebuttal to A and C. You write down these arguments and read them whenever your mind drifts off to the “big lie.” So for example, you could write:
I am a wonderful, funny and beautiful woman who can find love at any age. Many people find lasting love later in life. The divorce rate is lower for those who get married later in life. My age has nothing to do with me finding love. Out of the millions of men out there, there has to be at least a few possibilities out there for me.
This exercise can be used for almost all limiting beliefs. It also helps to put your limiting belief or the big lie on to paper to make it more tangible and therefore the mind can see it visually as you work through it. That can have a greater impact on your ability to release and overcome it.
Feel free to do this exercise and see what comes up for you. For more information on how you can eliminate the limiting beliefs that have been blocking you, feel free to visit my website.