So Worried About Being Single Forever That You Forget To Love Yourself

 

So Worried About Being Single Forever That You Forget To Love Yourself

Hey guys today I want to talk to you about a very important topic and that is about loving yourself particularly when you’re single I say this because in my office as well as on YouTube.

I constantly hear people make the comment that you know I don’t have love, I’m miserable, I’m single, I’m never gonna meet anybody, I’m too fat, I’m too old, I’m too… there’s always a reason and so what ends up happening is that people literally feel like shit and they feel like they’re worthless and that’s a horrible thing, why? Because number one: the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself, people forget that all the time and that is why there are so many people walking around miserable especially if they don’t have a significant other they personalize it and because of it they just feel like, you know what I’m just obviously not good enough, when in reality being single just means that you’re single that’s all it is and so that is why if I’ve if I’ve described you then it’s time that you start focusing on loving yourself unconditionally so what do I mean about what? when I say love yourself unconditionally I’m talking about loving yourself so much so that you are 100% committed to your well-being, that you know that you know what come hell or high water you are gonna be there for yourself till your last breath.

That’s the kind of unconditional love that I’m talking about, the kind of love that it makes no difference what is going on around you or who’s around or who thinks what or who says what that you are not yourself and so the first thing to do is to:

• number one stop being so highly critical with yourself, stop being so brutal with yourself,
• number two it’s really important that you focus on the good things that make you know it’s really easy to just focus on all of our fuss I know I get it we all get those ideas but you cannot let those thoughts just catch like be like wealth of fire so where it’s like all of a sudden they spread and they’re out of control.

So I’ll give you a really good personal example you know you see me all dolled up, I’ve got makeup on, I’ve got hair and everything the makeup everything done, well what you’re not seeing is that I have three reconstructive surgeries just to make me look ok and there are days when I finish getting out of the shower and I look in the mirror and I’m not gonna lie to you, I’m human, it hurts and but what I do is I focus on all the other things that make me, you Know: my hair, other things, my smile, my teeth, things like that and so what we focus on is really what expands in our minds and so instead of focusing on whatever is not perfect if you’re a guy feeling like you’re too short whatever it is focus on the things the positive things in you and remember that those flaws they’re not who you are there’s so much more to you than that so, start focusing on those positive things and the next thing when you catch a negative thought coming in nip it in the bud, do not give it any energy, it’s just a thought it’s not who you are. We literally get thousands of thoughts a day so if a non positive thought comes in especially a limiting belief just nip that thing and have in mind that it’s just a thought that’s all it is and literally be your own coach in your mind start telling yourself hey no I’m not gonna do that, I’m not gonna go down that road, remember I am this, you know a beautiful and intelligent. I’m good-looking, I’m intelligent, you know I’ve got a lot to offer and mention all of the things you know, all of your and all of the positives that you have because trust me you have many it’s just that a lot of times we don’t pay attention to those.

Well I hope you like this little video.  I’ll go ahead and I’ll take a look at your comments now I hope you’re having a fabulous day and now that my son is going to school I actually have a little more time to do these videos so if there’s a particular topic is of interest to you feel free to let me know and I’ll see about creating a little video for you okay I hope you’re having a wonderful day and I look forward to chatting again soon.