Overcoming Perfectionism: The Story Of One Entrepreneur’s Struggle. I recently had an entrepreneur comingvwho was beating himself up over the fact that his last business project took much more time and effort than expected. He thought that he should have been able to get things up and going much sooner.
Because he hadn’t reached his ideal goal, he was kicking himself over his perceived failure. That’s because he had personalized the experience and he was seeing himself as a failure. By the way, in the end he reached his goal, it’s just that things didn’t happen the way he would have liked them to.
He was being a perfectionist. That disconnect had him suffering from a low so forth and a low self confidence. The irony is that this guy is really smart. Maybe it’s from having worked with a lot of people but sometimes I can see things in people that they can’t even see in themselves. I knew that this guy had it in him to do some great things. He already had! And that was just the beginning. I just needed him to see what I was seeing. After a few sessions, I was able to help him get back on track with who he really was: a savvy businessman.
I’m sharing this story because everybody from time to time finds themselves beating themselves up with inner talk to the tune of oh I should have… Everybody experiences that at times, the problem is when that topic becomes chronic to the point where you feel like a screw-up who can’t do anything right, that’s why it’s important that you stop shooting yourself and come to terms with what didn’t happen.
The more you see it for what it is, the more you’ll free yourself of guilt and shame, which only hurt your self-esteem and block you from moving forward with all the things that you need and want to do in the present.
Also, keep in mind that some of the most successful people, including scientists, professional, sports athletes and businesspeople, all experienced plenty of failures, fumbles and mistakes before they reach success, it’s just part of the road to success, so stop personalizing and start getting yourself rooted in the present, because now is the time to get on track.
Think of it this way: You either gonna win or you’re gonna learn, either way is okay.
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