Nothing good ever comes from it.
For all of the reasons listed here, you must stop hurting yourself in this way.
You probably learned to behave this way because of a certain experience or set of experiences that you had early on in life.
What you’re now experiencing is a kind of maladaptive behavior. Your mind thinks that it’s doing you a favor by possibly preventing what happened before to happen again. Instead, it causes you a whole lot of grief.
Not to worry.
The same way you learned this way of being, you can unlearn it.
The first step is wanting to change.