People pleasing is a sure way of feeling unhappy. Honestly, it’s a set up for a slew of negative emotions.
Nothing good ever comes from it.
For all of the reasons listed here, you must stop hurting yourself in this way.
You probably learned to behave this way because of a certain experience or set of experiences that you had early on in life.
What you’re now experiencing is a kind of maladaptive behavior. Your mind thinks that it’s doing you a favor by possibly preventing what happened before to happen again. Instead, it causes you a whole lot of grief.
Not to worry.
The same way you learned this way of being, you can unlearn it.
The first step is wanting to change.